Simple Solution for Negative Thoughts

How much time do you have each day to “invest” in flipping your negative thoughts to positive ones and then trying to convince yourself that the positive ones are true and the negative ones aren’t?

Whatever your answer, you could save almost half that time by skipping the whole process and learning a more effective way to respond to negative thoughts.

Quick question – have you ever laid out in a pasture or yard and just looked up at the clouds? Not moving your head, you know, just a passive gaze at the sky?

You have a field of vision there – and maybe on a cloudy day you see a cloud drift through it. Just a puffy cloud – no particular shape. It comes into your field of vision and then it leaves. Maybe it changes as it crosses the sky in front of you. Maybe not.

Then a cloud comes and it looks like a puppy dog. “Look, there are the ears, and there’s its tail”, you think to yourself. Maybe a puff of wind transforms it into a bunny rabbit while it is passing in front of you. You notice the change. No big deal.

The next cloud is different. It looks like a dragon – very detailed. And the sun is hitting it just right so that it is like technicolor. It looks like it is breathing fire and it is aiming right at you!

Here is where you have a choice. You can jump up, run in the house and get your sword and fight the dragon. Or you can notice it and say to yourself, “Wow, THAT one looks scary”. If you choose the second response you can go on enjoying your cloud-watching. Choosing the first response means wasting a lot of energy and the mood of the moment.

Your thoughts are like clouds. Some are neutral, some are “pretty”, and some are downright scary. None of them have any more substance than a cloud unless you invest energy into them. You don’t have to fight them. You can just notice them and let them float on through the sky of your mind.

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Sample Lead Magnet – SendOutCards

Double Your Customer Retention and Referrals in 30 Minutes a Day

The Fortune is in the Follow-Up
You’ve heard it over and over – the fortune is in the followup. It makes sense and you know it’s true. It isn’t quite as simple as it seems it ought to be, right? Let’s make it simple.
The follow-up that makes your fortune is not ANY follow-up.
There are three big keys to making it effective:
  • It must nurture a connection
  • It must be consistent and persistent
  • It must be efficient


If your communication doesn’t nurture your connection it could actually hurt your cause. In fact, if your follow-up isn’t nurturing a connection with them, they will soon see it as spam.
People join PEOPLE, not companies or comp plans. They do this because of the personal connection they feel to you. The MAIN DRIVER of that connection is how much they believe you care about them as a person rather than as a prospect.
Many people don’t make a decision until after 7 -9 “touches”. That many touches requires time. Cultivating customer retention and referrals is a long-term strategy. You aren’t going to double them overnight. While it does take time over the long run, it doesn’t have to take a lot of time each day.
Get to know your contacts as individuals and recognize them as such.
Remember FORM? Family, occupation, recreation, and message? That information is GOLD, but only if you use it to personalize your communication. Record it so you can refer to it later.
Think in terms of friendship, celebration, and service. How can you recognize, celebrate, and serve them on a personal level?
Get personal about yourself, too. A postcard related only to your business or an email blast is NOT personal. Think 80% relationship and 20% marketing. Let your personality shine!

Consistency and Persistence

Even though you aren’t going to see an overnight increase in retention and referrals, stick with the plan you make.
“Most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year, but underestimate what they can accomplish in ten years.”
– Bill Gates

Use Systems to Stay Efficient

Every person on your list is not equal. Use a rating system based on how likely they are to buy, buy again, continue on your team, etc. AND how much you want them to stay in your circle. I would stick with 3 categories, but you can have as many as you want.
Make “rules” for how often you are going to contact each group and what channels you are going to use. Follow up with your “best” contacts more often, but don’t ignore those who you don’t think are as likely to respond. The low priority group may only get a couple of personal touches a year. The highest priority group might get a personal contact once a month. You make the rules! My sponsor took 18 months to join our company and her sponsor was a close friend!
Use more than one communication channel to stay in touch with your contacts. Email and social media are the most common ways to keep in touch now, but they aren’t as personal as a phone call or a greeting card. And, of course, face to face is best when it is possible.
Use a good contact manager and calendar program to keep you to 30 minutes a day.
Once you’ve set up the system, you should know exactly who you should contact on a given day.
I use three systems to make follow-up happen. Teamzy is an online software that pulls everything together. You can rate contacts, document every kind of “touch” and even record notes right from the dashboard.
Mailchimp handles my autoresponder and broadcast emails.
SendOutCards is like an autoresponder for greeting cards. It provides a simple and quick way to send personalized greeting cards to one person or a group. SendOutCards allows you to personalize your cards with photos of the recipient. You can add your own handwriting as a font and create different signatures for different situations.
You can also send a gift with your card.

A Quick Note About Greeting Cards

You may be thinking that greeting cards are old-fashioned and no one sends them anymore. And that may be true, but that is also THE POINT! When was the last time you received a greeting card and didn’t open it?
If you want to stand out you must zig when everyone else zags.
Greeting cards are personal. When you receive a greeting card you know the sender took time to think about you. When you receive a personalized card you take time to think about the sender. And isn’t that what you want? Your prospects and customers thinking about you?

An Invitation for You

Imagine it is six months from today. You’ve been using the SendOutCards system regularly. You’ve developed a comfortable group of repeat customers. Many of them are referring their friends to you. You spend about 30 minutes a day nurturing this system and the rest of the time you do what you love.
The best way to do that is for us to spend about 30 minutes on the phone and I’ll make sure you understand all the options. The best way to contact me to set this up is to email me at or text me at 903-546-5009.
You can download the SOC app for your iPhone or Android and watch the how-to videos if you are the DIY type.
Like to see a sample? Request one here.
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Health Lead Magnet Example – Cranky Joints

This is a lead magnet I wrote to promote a product sold through network marketing. The site and Facebook group referenced are not active but are examples only.

Four Simple Ways to Soothe Your Cranky Joints without Resorting to Needles or Knives

First of all, I’m not a doctor and nothing in this report should be considered medical advice. The information I’m sharing is based on research I did for my own shoulder and hip discomfort. The books I read were written by doctors and physical therapists, and the information in them helped me. I hope it helps you. But before you embark on any kind of self-treatment, do go see your doctor and make sure she has ruled out anything truly nasty like a tumor or infection. THEN, and only if the doctor says it is safe, you can try some of the strategies here.

OK, so I’m not a doctor. Who am I? I’m a Clinical Social Worker (psychotherapist) and I’ve worked in healthcare my entire 20+ year career. I’ve trained as a health coach and part of my work is helping patients with chronic pain live the best lives they can. My first job out of graduate school was in a chronic pain clinic. We’ve come a long way since then in many ways, but most doctors still want to inject or operate.

If you’re reading this, you’re obviously looking for an alternative to that!

My Personal Story with Cranky Joints

This is me – 30 years ago this summer.

I’d just finished a 100-mile bike ride! Everything hurt! But after a couple of days, everything felt better again. (You can kind of see why I didn’t start a fashion blog, right?)

Ten years later, when my second son was a baby I picked him up and held him up and out in front of me (think the Lion King). That shoulder has never been the same.

Fast forward to fifty plus and everyday aches and pains began to be the norm. First, it was my right hip. I did OK with that – got a seat pad for the car and learned to get in and out of the car differently and it got better.

Last year my left big toe got into the act. Every step hurt. Every. Step. The joint was so frozen that I could not lift my big toe off the ground and it would not bend at all. I went to the podiatrist and of course, he wanted to fuse it. I did some research and discovered that hard-soled shoes can relieve toe pain. I’ve worn Danskos ever since and my toe doesn’t hurt anymore. For the last month, I’ve been taking a supplement that I’ll talk more about later, and that big toe is starting to bend again!

This year it is my left shoulder – my good one! It got bad fast and it got bad enough for me to go see an orthopedist. Of course, he offered surgery as the “best” option. That’s when I started researching. Here’s what I found.

Pain is Perception

Many people who experience pain have normal imaging studies. Conversely, many people who experience NO pain have imaging studies that show abnormalities – bulging discs, bone spurs, etc. So, not everyone who has abnormalities hurts, and not everyone who hurts has abnormalities.

I think this is great news. It means that even if the imaging shows an abnormality you still have the possibility of relief.

Surgery Doesn’t Always Work

One of the reasons surgery is not always successful is that it doesn’t address the root cause of the problem, which is often poor posture, imbalanced use of the muscles, or underuse of the muscles.

Again, I think this is good news. It means that there is a specific path to balance the muscles and get them strong again and if the path is followed you have the possibility of relief.

Small Changes Make a Big Difference

If your goal is improved daily function (being able to pick up the grandbaby or your dog, or being able to go on a big shopping trip without tiring out and having to sit in the cafe while everyone else shares the fun) then an improvement of only 5-10% can bring enough relief so you notice the difference.

A Multi-pronged Approach is Required

Most people think about starting an exercise program when they think about getting in shape. Exercise is part of the solution, but not the only answer. It is also important to change your habits (posture, diet, sleep, etc.) and possibly get some hands-on help from a professional. Nourishing your joints with supplements can also make a difference.

More good news – maintenance and self-care can be accomplished in only 10 minutes a day!

OK, so what is the 4-step plan? Here it is in a nutshell, and then I’ll elaborate.

  1. Exercise
  2. Habits
  3. Hands-on help
  4. Supplements


Exercise is what got me started on all this – or rather, not being able to exercise because of cranky joints. “Just go walking” doesn’t work very well when your toe and hip hurt. It became obvious to me that if I was going to get very far with this “get back in shape” thing I was going to have to do something about the cranky joints first.

But if I can’t exercise, how is exercise the answer? I was trying to do the wrong kind of exercise. Dr. Joseph Tieri, in his book, End Everyday Pain for 50+, explains that repetitive movement with a misaligned, tight body is a recipe for trouble.

If you, like me, have cranky joints, you need to expand your ideas about exercise. There are three types of exercise:

  1. Exercise to build strength
  2. Exercise to stretch
  3. Exercise to increase the range of motion

and 5 ways to measure the effectiveness of exercise:

  1. strength
  2. flexibility
  3. endurance
  4. posture
  5. balance

Of course, these all work together, but as we get older the importance of different kinds of exercise changes. Gravity and habits conspire to pull our bodies out of alignment and that puts a strain on muscles and joints. We “adjust” ourselves to being out of alignment and then one day we can’t adjust anymore. Bam! Something hurts enough to keep us from doing what we want to do.

Strengthening is what most people think of first, but what I learned is that “making space” in a joint by working on flexibility is a better first step. Alignment is also very important, which means that proper form when exercising is even more important than it was when we were younger.

Here are a few good resources for exercise:

End Everyday Pain for 50+ by Joseph Tieri

Age-Defying Fitness by Marilyn Moffat and Carole B. Lewis

Move without Pain by Martha Peterson


Everyday habits of posture and movement are the next step in soothing your cranky joints.

Stand up straight!”. Did you hear your Mom’s voice? Yeah, she was right. Good posture is important for your joints because bad posture puts pressure on them in ways that weren’t meant to happen.

Once you start moving your body, habits become even more important. Lifting, sitting, bending, and sleeping are all activities that can add undue pressure on your joints if you don’t keep things aligned.

If you spend a lot of time at a computer, the height of your monitor can affect your posture. Same for where your keyboard is, how far your chair is from your desk, etc. Every little detail makes a difference.

Your pillow and sleeping position are very important since you spend so much time in bed. Making an effort to sleep on my back instead of my side made a big difference in both my shoulder and hip.

All three of the books I mentioned above are good resources for information about these areas.

Hands-On Help

Hands-on help may come from a chiropractor, massage therapist, physical therapist, or osteopath. This kind of work can help realign your body more quickly and make it easier to do the self-care exercises.

Other kinds of bodywork may be self-care but could benefit from input from a professional. Yoga is great for opening your joints, but you may need some guidance from an instructor to get the most benefit from it. Pilates can also be beneficial. Tai Chi and Qi Gong are also gentle but powerful ways to exercise.


Supplements can be important because as we age there are some natural changes in our bodies that challenge our joints.

Collagen is a fibrous connective tissue that makes up about 30 percent of the protein in all your body tissues (skin, muscle sheath, bone, tendons, ligament, cartilage, and blood vessels). As you age, collagen fibers begin to stick together, causing connective tissue to become less elastic. Collagen production also decreases as we age. There are two forms of collagen supplement that are backed by science – Verisol and BioCell. The coupon you received is for the BioCell form.

Hyaluronic acid is another supplement that is helpful for your joints. HA acts as a cushion and lubricant. It is naturally present in the human body, found mostly in the eyes and joints. It can be taken orally or injected. HA helps your body retain collagen. One of its main functions is to help tissues retain moisture, so it also helps relieve dry eyes and plump up your skin.

Chondroitin is a major component of cartilage in the body and it also works by retaining water, adding lubrication and flexibility to joints. It also supports collagen production. Give this one time, though. Research shows it can take up to 3 months to notice the effects.

An Invitation

That’s it – the 4 simple ways to soothe your cranky joints – in a nutshell. I realize I’ve only given you a place to start in this brief report but finding a starting point is critical, isn’t it?

I’m inviting you to join me on the journey to the best fitness and health we can attain now that we are looking at 50 in the rear-view mirror.

Join me on my blog or on my Facebook group. I also hope you’ll join me, though, in using the Liquid Biocell joint support I gave you the coupon for. I told you my story with it at the beginning of this report. Now it’s your turn to start your own story with it. There’s no risk – it comes with a guarantee.

I have to tell you that I’m a distributor for Liquid Biocell and if you buy it through my link, I’ll make some money. Here’s the other part of that story, though. I’m a distributor because the product worked for me and I’m a born recommender. Really, being a Social Worker is kind of being a life librarian. We connect people with resources. So, when something works for me, I’m gonna tell everyone I know who I think might be interested in it. I can’t not – after all, if I know about something cool and I don’t tell my friend, I’m being pretty selfish, right? And that’s just not me.

If you didn’t already claim it, click on the image below to use your coupon. When you get to the site, click on “Collagen Sciences” and choose your product. I use the “Skin”, but all the products have the same Biocell ingredients. “Life” is the basic product. You’ll need two bottles for a full month’s supply. Everyone’s body reacts differently to supplements. Experts recommend you use the product for 3 months before you decide whether it is working for you.


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